How to Choose and Use a Butt Plug for Beginners
By Joystick | Discreet Adult Toys | Published: 2026-10-18
Category: How-to Guides
A straightforward guide for beginners on selecting and safely using your first butt plug. Covers sizing, material, preparation, and step-by-step usage tips.
Quick Answer
Start with a small, tapered silicone butt plug, plenty of lubricant, and a relaxed mindset. Go slow, listen to your body, and never force insertion.
Why Start with a Small, Tapered Plug
A beginner-friendly butt plug has a narrow tip and a gradual increase in width, allowing the sphincter to adjust slowly. Plugs with a wide neck and a flared base are safer because they stay in place and can be removed easily. Avoid plugs with sharp edges or extreme curves until you have more experience.
Material Matters: Silicone vs. Metal
Silicone is soft, flexible, and warms to body temperature quickly, making it ideal for first-time users. Metal plugs like the Lockink Fox Butt Plug offer a firmer, heavier sensation and a smooth surface that glides easily with lubricant. The choice depends on whether you prefer gentle give or a more intense, weighty feel. Note that silicone plugs require water-based lubricant only, while metal plugs work with any lubricant type.
Lubricant Is Non-Negotiable
The anal canal does not self-lubricate, so using a generous amount of high-quality lubricant is essential. Water-based lubes are safe with all materials and easy to clean. Silicone-based lubes last longer but should not be used with silicone toys. Apply lube to both the plug and the anal opening before starting.
Step-by-Step Guide to Using Your First Butt Plug
- Step 1: Prepare Yourself and the Plug: Wash your hands and the plug with warm water and mild soap or a toy cleaner. Empty your bowels beforehand if possible. Apply a generous amount of lubricant to the tip and shaft of the plug, and also to the outside of your anus. Common mistake: using too little lube. Reapply if you feel any friction.
- Step 2: Relax and Breathe: Find a comfortable position — lying on your side, squatting, or leaning forward. Take slow, deep breaths. Gently press the lubricated tip against your anus without forcing. As you exhale, apply light, steady pressure. The sphincter will naturally relax. If you feel pain, stop and breathe. Never push through sharp pain.
- Step 3: Insert Slowly and Pause: Once the tip enters, pause for a few seconds to let your muscles adjust. Slowly advance the plug a little further, then pause again. Continue until the widest part is past the sphincter. The base should sit outside your body. Checkpoint: the plug should feel full but not painful. If it slips out, choose a slightly wider neck next time.
- Step 4: Wear, Remove, and Clean: Wear the plug for 5–10 minutes initially. To remove, gently pull while bearing down slightly as if having a bowel movement. Clean the plug immediately with soap and water or a dedicated toy cleaner. Store in a dust-free pouch or container. Do not leave a plug in for more than 30 minutes during early sessions. Always clean after every use.
Products That Help Beginners Start Safely
- Apollo / Boreas Butt Plug: The Blush Apollo Boreas Butt Plug is made of platinum-cured silicone and features a spiral bead design. Platinum-cured silicone is body-safe, non-porous, and easy to clean, while the spiral beads provide gentle graduated stimulation that helps beginners adjust to different widths.
Apollo / Boreas Butt Plug - Fox Butt Plug 可拆卸毛球肛塞: The Lockink Fox Butt Plug has a zinc alloy metal body with a rose gold finish and a detachable faux fur tail. The smooth metal surface glides easily with lubricant, and the detachable tail adds playful variety without compromising safety, as the plug has a flared base.
Fox Butt Plug 可拆卸毛球肛塞
